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How to dance Slow

 The slow dance: you've probably either loved it or hated it since middle school. No dance can be so romantic, and yet many people who have no trouble shaking their booties all night start to creep toward the sidelines when the music slows down. Don't turn into a wallflower at the end of the evening. You, too, can learn to love a slow dance. 

 
 
Steps
 
 
1
Ask someone to dance. You can't slow dance alone, at least not without looking, well, slow. If you brought a date, you'll probably want to ask him or her to dance. If not, find a partner. Set the mood by looking that person in the eyes when you ask him or her to dance. A smile or even a playful grin will go a long way in putting both of you at ease. If you're nervous, don't show it – and be understanding if he or she doesn't want to dance.
 
 
 
 
 
2
Escort your partner onto the dance floor slowly and smoothly. The smoothest way to do this is to join hands/arms as you walk together onto the floor. Guys, clasp your partner’s right hand with your left, lift it slightly, and guide her onto the floor. Girls, if your partner doesn’t automatically guide you onto the floor, give him your right hand or crook your elbow into his and walk onto the floor. If you're already on the dance floor, the key here may be to keep yourself and your partner on the dance floor--no easy task if one or both of you is nervous about slow dances. If your partner is nervous, smile and tell him or her that there's nothing to worry about.
 
 
 
 
3
Get into slow-dance stance. Face your partner, standing so that your head is about a foot or two away from his or hers. Standing toe-to-toe may not be the optimal position. Some couples stand offset, with each person's right foot inside the other persons pair; some partners may have the woman's feet to the inside of the man's. If you are a teen you can always place both hands on the girl's hip (if you're a man.) and if you are a girl place both arms around his neck.
 
 
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Create an appropriate level of intimacy. You need to know where to put your hands and how close to dance. This doesn't need to be awkward. To be safe, the man should put his right hand on his partner's left hip side, and his left hand should gently grasp his partner's right hand and hold it up at about shoulder-level (of the taller partner) so that both partners' arms are bent upward from the elbow. The woman's left arm will generally be placed on her partner's shoulder. This is a traditional ballroom dancing position (as well as a safe junior high dancing position), and you should still be standing about a foot from your partner. If the two of you are in a romantic relationship and it’s allowed, you can even get into a hug stance with the guy’s arms around the girl’s waist and the girl’s arms around the guy’s shoulders. (A same-sex couple can decide who takes which position or even take turns.) Generally speaking, you shouldn't let your hands wander. Even in the event that your partner doesn't mind, it’s distracting for the other dancers.
 
 
 
 
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Lead / allow yourself to be lead. Traditionally, the man leads the dance and the woman follows his movement. (If you’re a same-sex couple, one of you may be a natural leader and one a follower, or you may simply take turns.) Guys, this cannot be emphasized enough: if you are leading, guide your partner. This doesn't mean you should move her around the dance floor like a push broom, it means you should be confident enough in your movements to bodily convey to her what you want to do. The easiest way to do this is by subtly pushing or pulling her right hand (assuming you are holding it in your left hand) in the direction you want to go. However, make sure you’re not doing all your leading with just your hands; if your body’s doing one thing and your arms are doing another, you’ll come across as pushy / like you don’t know what you’re doing. Instead, lead with your whole body: keep your shoulders and elbows firm but springy (you don’t want to move like an automaton) and then step in the direction that you want to lead your partner. Do this right and she’ll be the envy of all the girls floating around the dance floor with their partners like lost tumbleweeds.
 
 Ladies, unfortunately, being lead often means being at the mercy of a partner with all the leadership capability of a dead jellyfish. As uninspiring as this is, do your best not to take over or he’ll never learn. (In fact, you might even try going the passive aggressive approach by swaying in place until he gets the hint.) If, on the other hand, you’re lucky enough to get a partner who leads – even if awkwardly – don’t fight it. In fact, do your best to follow along; the clearer you make it that he’s in charge, the likelier he is to try to lead better. If your partner moves his foot, you will need to compliment his action: as the leader moves his right foot backward, for example, you should move your left foot forward.
 
 
 
 
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Move slowly and simply. Luckily for you non-dancers, slow dancing is about as easy as it gets. Movements should be slow and smooth, and you need not move very much. (Swaying back and forth as you move in a circle is perfectly acceptable.) Even if you’re knowledgeable enough to follow a set dance form, such as a waltz or foxtrot, odds are that your partner won’t know how to do this. Simply transferring your weight back and forth, however, is a language everyone speaks. To vary, move or rotate, slightly lift the foot your weight is not on and slide that foot a little forward, back, or sideways.
 
 
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Move to the beat. Your steps should move roughly in time to the beat of the music so that you make a step every beat or so. This is not as hard as it might sound since the music will most likely be slow during a slow dance.
 
 
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Interact with your partner. For most of us, a slow dance is more about being close to your partner and getting to know each other than it is about moving. Feel free to talk to your partner, to look into his or her eyes and, if the situation is appropriate, to steal a kiss or two.
 
 
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Thank your partner for the dance. Whether you're dancing with your wife of 60 years or someone you've never met before, thank your partner. You won't lead someone on with a simple "Thanks for the dance."
 
 
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Continue to the next dance or retreat gracefully. Once you're comfortable with slow dances, you might not want to flee the floor as quickly as possible: one dance is just the beginning. If, however, you've had enough dancing for the moment, retreat from the dance floor. Ladies, if you have to go find your girl friends and squeal about the cute guy you just danced with, go do it. Guys, if you need to go brag about the cute girl you just danced with, do it. Offer to escort your partner to his or her table or wherever they want to go, or ask him or her if they would like to retreat if you want to do so. Keep in mind, however, that retreating may also be used to find a place of relief from someone who may want to dance with you again, but with whom you don't want another dance.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Tips
 
Guys, be sweet. Girls like it and it's attractive.
 Make sure you dont stare at your partner creepily.
 Allow conversation to happen. Many people will slow dance just to get the chance to talk with you. If the conversation flows, let it. If you let it flow, be genuinely interested in the conversation, or be genuinely interested in your partner.
 Try sliding your feet instead of picking them up. This way you are less likely to step on your partners feet.
 Make sure your dancing posture is comfortable. Position your feet so that you don't have to strain or stretch as you dance.
 Be respectful.
 Make lots of eye contact with your partner, as this will make the relationship stronger and dancing more comfortable.
 If you do know how to dance, either fluently or at a beginner level, rather than assume anything about your partner, ask them or try them out. Ladies, feel free to ask your partner if he knows how to dance. If he does and you don't, asking him to teach you may get you a few more dances throughout the night, and a date in the future if you want it.
 Girls, if you really can't stand the guy you're dancing with, just say your feet hurt and gently break away.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Warnings
 
If you step on someone's feet, apologize, and for heaven's sake try not to do it again. If someone steps on your feet and apologizes, be forgiving. Chances are that it was an accident.
 Men, do not ever even consider leading a woman in any way other than gently. It can be a firm gentle, but it had better be gentle. Several reasons: A) If you hurt her, she's not likely to dance with you again, and she'll probably tell her friends, who won't either. Worst case, she'll tell security and then you're in trouble. B) This beautiful woman you're dancing with might not relate the same way the guys do, meaning a sudden jerk on her arm might bruise it, not make her feel like she's having a good laugh. C) Practice does indeed make perfect. Maybe this one won't dance with you again, ever – but maybe the cutie in the cocktail dress just noticed how you treated this dance as a gentleman should ... and she's looking for the next time you're free.
 Talk to and look at your partner, not your friend's partner! Looking over your partner's shoulder at someone else isn't going to end well.
 
 


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